Privilege comes in many forms: socio-economic privilege, gender privilege, heterosexual privilege, to name a few. But behind every case is an imbalance of power, invisible to those who possess it, and ever-present for those who don’t. In today’s episode, the Sugars reply to two letter writers whose loved ones are unable see their own privilege. One letter comes from a woman whose fiancé wants her and their future children to take his last name. The Sugars call on Catrice M. Jackson, a leading voice for racial justice, to help answer a second letter from a woman who calls herself "A Mother of White Privileged Children." Together, Ms. Jackson and the Sugars discuss ways in which racism is internalized, and outline best practices for talking about privilege. For more information on today’s episode visit nytimes.com/dearsugars.