Larry Bilotta helps us see the often-overlooked connection between childhood and adult life. The title of this book comes from husbands who wake up one day to realize their wife's personality has gone through a sudden and traumatic change. She does not resemble the woman she was. Through his own life experience of a most traumatic marriage relationship, Bilotta gives us a revealing story of how life events, those of your first ten years, have a real effect on your marriage relationship and could be the trigger that sets off the midlife crisis. Larry Bilotta's stories and ideas help readers see how the subconscious mind is directly connected to how the midlife crisis is run by the ideas of the subconscious mind. It is these subconscious messages delivered during the childhood years from birth to 10 years old that reveal your own, and your wife's abandonment, abuse, or neglect. These subconscious stories contain the hidden instructions which control how your wife acts it all out through the years of her midlife crisis Bilotta's approach is not just about knowing the effect of the past, but also about how husbands can change their wrong minded thinking into right minded thought. He teaches how wives are natural reactors who react to life events, but they also react to the energy their husband gives off. You'll learn how you create that new energy in This is Not the Woman I Married. This book is a roadmap for men wondering how to bring their marriages back to the real love where that relationship began. This is a wake-up call, urging men to use this time to become the man that only pain-filled situations allow him to become.