Michelle Fegatofi

Just because something might be a kink you are not into, does not mean that it is wrong.

Follow the rule SSC (Safe, Sane, Consensual)
or RACK (
Risk Aware Consensual Kink).

BDSM springs from the terms Bondage and Discipline (B/D), Dominance and Submission (D/s), and Sadism and Masochism (S/M) and describes forms of sexuality that incorporate restraint, pressure, sensation, training, and elements of both erotic and non-erotic power exchange

Discipline
is
the actions taken by a Dominant to teach and prevent a submissive from doing something that is in no way an act of willful disobedience.

Punishment
is when a submissive or slave has purposely been disobedient and has knowingly disobeyed a command or done something incorrectly brought on by an act of defiance.
In cases like these, punishment will be administered to ensure that the submissive or slave is aware that disobedience has consequences and it generally is not a process that any of the parties involved, enjoys.

Sadism
is a source of pleasure that results from inflicting pain or humiliation or watching pain or humiliation inflicted on a submissive/slave.

Masochism
is a source of sexual/mental/emotional gratification, or the tendency to derive sexual/mental/emotional gratification, from being physically or emotionally abused.

BDSM is not nec
essarily hardcore sadomasochism.
I
t can be remarkably subtle and sensual and soft.
Pinning your partner to the bed and running silk or ice cubes or rabbit fur over your lover's body

BDSM is
NOT
abuse.
An abuser doesn't take the time to learn safe play and an abuser certainly doesn't respect limits.
Not taking NO for an answer, not honoring a safe word, or taking advantage of the unequal power relationship that exists between Dom and sub, are forms of abuse.

“Green” means that

everything is going well, so whatever activity is going on can continue or get

more intense.
“Yellow” means to
slow down or take a break.
“Re
d” means stop

immediately.

They don't understand the sense of security, need of serving, and feelings of yearning to be dominated and/or owned by another individual.