Hugh Prather

Most of us decide in conflict, act in conflict, and think this is the way life must be. Mixed feelings arise from a sense of having more than one self. On the surface this appears to be the inevitable outcome of our personal history. Since we have had many opposing experiences, it seems natural that we are divided about almost everything

The rule is, Don't allow the criticism to leave your mind. Remove its source and repair the damage to your mind quickly.

the room when our life ends, but they can't die for us

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Most idle thoughts are defensive. A conflicted mind is vulnerable and therefore fearful and suspicious. A victim mentality eventually seeks victims. It turns on itself and then on others.

“Finding something nice to say” about someone is not practicing love.

Spirituality isn't an affectation. It isn't wearing white cotton and talking like a god. We can be spiritual without anyone knowing it. We can heal without anyone knowing it. We can awaken to Oneness without anyone knowing it. But if we start talking about our holiness—painting a picture of how holy we are—we block our holiness.

Ducks quack and humans gossip. If you don't quack, the other ducks will run you off. If you don't gossip, you're going to have very short conversations.

When I am flexible and forgiving, I am happy. When I am rigid and righteous, I am unhappy. It's that simple.

The key to good friendships is for me to enjoy my friends. The key to being a great parent is to enjoy my boys. The key to a sound marriage is to enjoy Gayle. And the key to walking a spiritual path is to enjoy my Self.

We are not always attracted to the “wrong” person. Unless something very unusual is going on, we are always attracted to an ideal healing partner. Do you think it's just bad luck that one of you likes to plan and one of you likes to be spontaneous? That one of you likes to talk it out and one of you likes to “let it be”? That one of you likes to spend and one of you likes to save? That one of you likes to party and one of you is more a homebody?

If you've got someone who seems opposite to you in almost every respect, you've got the right person. In a sense, your partner is the repository of your rejected strengths. Forgive your partner and, together, you become whole.

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