Relationships

Why does it hurt so much? Why am I so upset?”
“Because I want to feel loved and appreciated and I’m afraid of being abandoned and alone.”

We’re all insecure and ignorant at times and we all act out on our insecurities and ignorance in ways that hurt other people. This is called “being an asshole.”

But the best part is that the process itself validates the important feelings underlying the problems — your boyfriend is critical of you because he cares, your girlfriend is arrogant only because she feels insecure around you, and you get angry because you’re afraid she won’t like you anymore.

Tell him that it’s important for you to feel that he supports you and approves of you and when he criticizes you, especially in front of other people, you don’t feel that way. From there, he’s likely to tell you that, in his mind, his criticisms are his way of supporting you.

The normal and healthy need for security and commitment can become an unhealthy form of possessiveness, obsession and jealousy.

Fundamental Emotional Needs in Dating:

1.Status. Feeling important or superior; feeling challenged.

2.Connection. Feeling understood and appreciated; shared values and experiences.

3.Security. Feeling safe and reliable; feeling trust.

Fundamental Emotional Needs in Dating:

1.Status. Feeling important or superior; feeling challenged.

2.Connection. Feeling understood and appreciated; shared values and experiences.

3.Security. Feeling safe and reliable; feeling trust.

they may have a strong desire for commitment and security.

Many in their early 20’s seek status and fun and partying. In their 30’s, they might prioritize connection and acceptance, and by the time they’re 40, t

Emotions are what happen while you’re making other plans.