Female Logic: Understanding Why He Might Be Just That Into You and Why Men Aren’t from Mars or Women from Venus

True love is not selfish. Only lack of self-love makes it seem that way. True love is altruistic and selfless. It’s about the pleasure of giving without needing in return.

The breaking point in a relationships comes when a man finds himself without proper solutions. Chased by a woman he disrespects and doesn’t want for himself, that man is left alone to his sexual nature when such woman is depriving him from a proper conscience by chasing him in the first place. And what does this guy without solutions does? He cheats with other women.

Men are impulsive and often think about sex before a relationship can even start. They don’t have a good concept of the meaning of having a relationship, and that’s why they tend to have difficulties in knowing how to start one or maintaining the one they already have.

Most men have no idea of how to ask a woman out and most books about how to attract women, or even websites on the internet, tend to discuss widely this topic much more than any other. Why is this so important for men? It’s very important because, even if they do know how to ask a woman out, they have no idea about where to take her, what to do with her, what to say to her, etc. Most men are as dumb as you can imagine when it comes to relationships, because they never cared about learning about it, they never talked about it, and they weren’t educated about it, and that’s why women have wrong expectations about what most men can and will do. If a man didn’t ask a woman out, he’s probably thinking over and over about where to take her, what to say to her, etc. Men need to have a full plan before starting a first step.
The most likely think to happen is that, immersed in his fear and anxiety, he will end up giving up. Men often give up on the woman they love or admire the most, because they’re immature in dealing with emotions that they’ve spent an entire life suppressing, first because of their peers and later because of porn. The first reason tells them that emotions are for girls and the later that sex and emotions can’t combine together. This is actually more likely to happen when a woman is very attractive or stimulating a certain anxiety in a man.

Know that men don’t distinguish friends from lovers as women usually do, and that’s why they tend to end up falling into the friend zone with a woman they truly love

. A man with pride will never allow himself to be enslaved emotionally or psychologically, and a woman that tries to diminish that pride is seriously damaging her relationship with such man

We can then say that “it is normal and many people have suffered the same”, while not realizing that most individuals have wrong self-beliefs and have chosen to put themselves in such situations in the first place. It hurts to let go such relationship, because it’s like reliving again the same experience of losing the love of a father or mother. It’s not the pain of the relationship that hurts, but a suppressed pain, accumulated for years within the core of our heart. And we should feel blessed for finding it, confronting it and having a chance to deal with it. That’s why relationships are for. The more someone loves herself, the less she feels the need to stay in a painful relationship

We often choose those that can bully us like we were, or become the victim that we can identify with.

This said, the best solution for a broken heart consists in learning how to love oneself.

say: “He/she has hurt me!”, and that may even be true, but you did choose that person. The pain you received is proportional to the lack of self-love, and this is proportional to the amount of love you felt losing during your earlier years in life.