Get the Summary of Emily Nagoski's Come As You Are in 20 minutes. Please note: This is a summary & not the original book. Original book introduction: Our summary is short, simple and pragmatic. It allows you to have the essential ideas of a big book in less than 30 minutes.As you read this summary, you will discover how you can grow more fully in your sex life as a woman. You will also discover : that your sexuality is influenced and limited by social injunctions; that every woman has a different experience of pleasure; that there are many ways to reach orgasm; that sexual arousal and desire do not always go hand in hand; that desire depends above all on the context in which you find yourself.