How to Become a People Magnet

You must accept people as they are. So simple and yet sometimes so complicated, right?

“Do I want to be right or do I want to be in peace?”

No matter who you are people will always be a thousand times more interested in themselves than in you.

Another ingredient is Approval. No matter how many faults somebody has, you can always find something to approve of. Let people know it because seeing these things and mentioning them will make them grow. Remember our hunger for acknowledgment? If you start approving of character traits in people, you will satisfy this hunger, and you will probably make these people work on other character traits and skills to gain more approval. Praise people and watch them grow.

doing it? And even more important... how can YOU develop these abilities.
One of the most important ingredients is Acceptance. You must accept people as they are

3. Give them a choice between two yeses

You can’t expect others to believe in you if you don’t believe in you, yet. Start being proud of yourself, of who you are, of where you come from, and of what you do for a living. This is not the time to be modest! Careful though. It’s also not the time to be arrogant. I’m talking about healthy self-esteem. Knowing who you are, knowing your strength, but also knowing that you are not better than anybody else (and remembering that nobody is better than you either)

You show them how they can get what they want by doing what you want them to do. Yup. That’s manipulating at its best - so I hope dear reader that you just wish the best for the people you want to influence because this power - just like the power of electricity or the atom - can be used to create something beautiful, or to destroy. Choose wisely

Adopt the attitude of being agreeable. Learn to agree with people and let them know when you do so. Nod your head. Say “yes,” “right,” “I totally agree with you,” “I totally get you.”

Recognition and appreciation are so important. They make us function better under any circumstance. Use their name as often as you can. People like to be called by their names. Let them finish their sentence. Don’t interrupt people. Make a short pause before answering. This gives them the feeling that you have listened closely and are interested in what they have to say. You can also nod while they are talking to show that you are following