A Joosr Guide to Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus by John Gray

But it is possible to understand and diffuse these contrasting emotional responses, which can help to eliminate arguing and promote lasting happiness through healthy communication

Ted’s instinct as a man is to take care of his own needs above anyone else’s. When he feels appreciated, he will place Gina’s needs equal to

even if she doesn’t feel that he is caring for her in return, she will keep caring for him—only now she will begin to resent him for never giving back

Gina’s instinct as a woman is to take care of everyone else’s needs before her own. She believes that when she does things for Ted, he will reciprocate.

say can also be misunderstood

Gina says, “We never go out,” Ted’s first instinct is to feel blamed and correct her by accurately recalling the last time they went out. But the word “never” is an exaggeration Gina uses to express her depth of feeling.

Accept a male partner by letting him solve his own problems, appreciating his efforts, and not trying to change him

the natural emotional cycles of men and women

A man can reassure her that he will be back to make it easier

All men are prone to this pattern of springing away suddenly and then rushing back.