The Silent Patient

Remember, love that doesn’t include honesty doesn’t deserve to be called love.”

“A baby cannot hate the mother, without the mother first hating the baby.”

love that doesn’t include honesty doesn’t deserve to be called love.”

truth is I’m scared to have kids. I am not to be trusted with them.

the pain of not being loved”

think her behavior suggests she is quite damaged—lacking in empathy and integrity and just plain kindness—all the qualities you brim with.”

You know, Theo, one of the hardest things to admit is that we weren’t loved when we needed it most. It’s a terrible feeling, the pain of not being loved.”

About love. About how we often mistake love for fireworks—for drama and dysfunction. But real love is very quiet, very still. It’s boring, if seen from the perspective of high drama. Love is deep and calm—and constant. I imagine you do give Kathy love—in the true sense of the word. Whether or not she is capable of giving it back to you is another question.”

Choosing a lover is a lot like choosing a therapist. We need to ask ourselves, is this

someone who will be honest with me, listen to criticism, admit making mistakes, and not promise the impossible?

And it was often an ugly sight.